Become a Surrogate MotherThe choice to become a surrogate is as personal a decision as is the choice to explore surrogacy as a family building option. That’s why our personal, hands on approach to matching you with the perfect intended parents is so effective. We understand that surrogacy is more than a contract, it is a family bond. Becoming a surrogate mother is a very special thing. It is an opportunity to make a real difference in people’s lives, and in many cases, helping to make their dreams come true. If you are the sort of compassionate person who is willing to commit to a remarkable family building journey, we would like to hear from you. The surrogacy journey can be involved, which is why you will work with a personal surrogacy coordinator. Together, you will discuss any questions about the surrogacy process you might have. Having helped hundreds of surrogates navigate the fertility journey, our surrogacy experts will ensure you are prepared for what you can expect before, during, and after the process. We remove all apprehension with one-on-one counseling throughout your surrogacy experience. We will be there every step of the way.
The Perfect Match
We are proud to work with experienced surrogates, many of whom return to work with us again. That’s because we go above and beyond to ensure our surrogates’ happiness and comfort. New Beginnings works with only select intended parents, pre-qualified and psychologically evaluated. When we present our surrogate mother with options for potential matches, they have been carefully selected for match success. Every surrogate who we work with is interviewed for her requests in a match. These may include, but are not limited to:
- Working with a gay couple or single parent
- Working with American Intended Parents or International Intended Parents
- Willingness to carry multiple pregnancies (twins)
- Level of communication with the intended parents
Basic Requirements to Become a Surrogate in New Jersey and Other States
Here are the basic requirements to becoming a surrogate mother. Our requirements are designed to ensure lasting matches. If you have any questions, we encourage you to call us. All our surrogates:
- Must be committed to Surrogacy Program and to Intended Parents
- Be in good heath with a healthy BMI ≤ 31 If your BMI is slightly higher than 31, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Delivered at least one healthy child within the past 6 years
- Uncomplicated prior pregnancies (no pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, pre-term labor)
- No use of tobacco, alcohol or illegal drugs
- Clear criminal background check
- U.S. citizenship or legal permanent residency
- Between the ages of 21 and 38
- If you are interested in becoming a Surrogate, please take our quick and user-friendly prescreening quiz to begin your application process today.
What do we ask about our Potential Surrogates?Surrogate Social History – Surrogacy is a financial contract and so we will need all your legal contact information and personal history. With this information, we can better help ensure the compatibility of any intended parents we will introduce to you. Also, because we want to ensure healthy pregnancies, you will be prompted to calculate your current BMI using our surrogacy BMI Calculator.
We will also want to know:
- Have you given birth before?
- Have you used any form of tobacco in the past 6 months?
- Have you been prescribed or used antidepressants in the past 6 months?
- Do you have any history of using illegal drugs?
- Do you have any history of alcohol abuse?
- Verify your relationship status
- Verify the number of children you have birthed and their ages
Other medical history inquiries include any diagnosed history of:
- Gestational Diabetes
- Pregnancy-Induced Hypertension
- Your history as a surrogate mother
Background Check of Surrogate and Husband/Partner – This is an inquiry about you and your family’s current status of receiving a variety of government assistance or subsidized living, Welfare, or Medicaid. We also will ask about any criminal background. The purpose of obtaining a clean background check on all of our surrogates is to give our Intended Parents the comfort of knowing that their chosen surrogate:
- Has the support of her husband/partner and children
- Has the support of her extended family and close friends
- Is willing to participate in extended social screening – such as a home visit
- Is financially secure
- Leads a stable, resourceful, and responsible lifestyle
- Is willing and able to travel in order to facilitate the IVF embryo transfer process because these trips often entail overnight stays
Embryo Transfer ProcessTo begin the embryo transfer process, your menstrual cycle is regulated using fertility medications to ensure that you are not ovulating and your uterine lining is thickening.
Fertility cycle treatments may include:
- Oral medications
- Injectable medications
- Several doctor physical exams
- Blood testing
- Ultrasound testing
The purpose of this fertility treatment regimen is to ensure your uterus is in the best possible condition to achieve a successful embryo implantation and thriving pregnancy.
- An embryo is transferred to the surrogate mother’s uterus in a procedure similar to a Pap smear
- After successful implantation into the surrogate mother’s uterine lining, she carries the pregnancy to full term and gives birth to a baby
What to expect during your pregnancy as a surrogate
You may experience a vast array of emotions while you are carrying another’s child. You will receive lots of support from your surrogacy coordinator and may expect regular phone calls and emails checking up on how you are doing. Common feelings may include:
- Emotional swings due to hormones
- Physical stress of carrying a baby to full term
- Trepidation of attachment to the baby in utero